The beautiful Big Money Stylist ladies discuss how to embrace your perceived flaws and turn them into strengths.
For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month:
Week #1: Power
Week #2: Production
Week #3: Profit
Week #4: Protection
In This Week’s Episode…..POWER
Point #1: The Bull, the Goat, and the Hermit
Danielle: I’m stubborn, I’m an over-thinker, I don’t like details, I’m a dreamer, I want to live in the moment, and I’ve always felt like I was socially awkward. Coach Val: I’m super creative, it’s hard for me to understand systems, I suck at math, and have zero reflexes.
Coach Ani: I’m a super introvert who retreats very quickly, I shut people out, I want to do everything on my own, and I don’t accept help easily.
What do you view as your flaws?
Point #2: Own Who You Are
- Coach Val: I feel like I’m off in a land where I can’t be put in a box. I’ve always viewed it as “I’m wrong and weird.” I’m now coming into owning and channeling my artistry, and not looking at it anymore as “I’m flawed.”
- Danielle: When you start owning who you are, it’s almost infectious. If you’re cool with yourself, with your flaws, people are cool with that. People look at you and say “I like that she just doesn’t care.” Coach Ani: If people ask me if they can help, my first response is going to be no, I’m good, I’ve got it. I see this as a strength because I have been able to build so much inside of BMS.
What have you begun owning about yourself?
Point #3: Be Your Best Self
- Danielle: You want to have control and do it all, but you can’t be everything for every person. In our industry, you can be a great artist but that doesn’t mean you are a great fit for everyone.
- Everyone brings their best element, their own style. People will relate to different people. There isn’t anyone who can be you, but everybody as their best selves adds another element.
What is one of your strengths?
Point #4: No End Game
- Danielle: It’s our nature to not give ourselves enough credit for what we’ve gone through. We are always a work in progress. Coach Val: If you have this thought of I’m done learning, you might not ever discover other areas of your life that you really love.
- Coach Ani: When it comes to you, there’s no end game. There will never come a point when you think ah, I nailed that part of me, I guess I’m done growing.
What do you love about learning and growing?
Point #5: It’s On You
- Coach Ani: It’s making yourself knowledgeable inside your business and learning whatever you need to know in order to be self-reliant. Coach Val: I think you have longevity when you figure things out.
- Danielle: You learn by doing. If you don’t learn how to do the basics of your business, you are always going to rely on someone else to make your business successful instead of owning that you are in charge of actually making your business successful.
What basics do you need to learn?
Quote of the Week:
“Our curse is our blessing. As artists, we are creative and tell ourselves we can’t be this person or that person – I’m not a numbers person, I’m not business savvy, I’m just in it for the art. If you’re just in it for the art, that’s great, but you’re going to stay broke as fuck if you don’t learn the basics to become self-reliant.”
“If you want to grow, you can’t stay doing what you’re doing. “I can’t, but what if I could? What if I just tried this?” If you are saying you can’t just do something that will make you just try it and see what happens, When you get different results, I guarantee you are want to keep going.”
“I feel that once you have accepted what you consider to be your flaws as part of who you are – once you own your shit and are comfortable with okay, I’m weird – it’s almost easier to just let go of the stories you’ve associated yourself with and move forward.”